The well best secret; How to exchange frustration for fulfilment
- Nechama Miriam Steinhaus
- Jul 5
- 3 min read
A True Story;
A woman; full life; private dreams; childhood experiences many many years ago that are still waiting to be re-visited and explored.
A dilemna; Which avenue of work does she best explore right now? Does she continue working for the business owner she admires? Does she build up her own practice in her unique area of expertise?
Listen, the decision has to be made and there is a deadline when we meet for the journey of figuring this all out - for real.
When frustration, indecision with regards to work, career, business, etc the secret to finding the answer is;
Ta da..
Refining Your Goal.
Yep.
Look, if you have a goal to earn $XXX or to have X amount of clients per week, I need to tell you that this ain't gonna cut it for inner peace and success.
You know why.
You know your real life.
Your own personal variation of challenge.
Your mission as a wife/mother or both.
Your actual health; your body and overall wellness these days
And then where this current decision plays its role in all of that.
For many years, going to the Beis Hachayim was not much of an experience for me.
Went, prayed and came home.
However since the passing of my dear daughter,
I frequent the Beis Hachayim often, and I feel an attachment. A connection.
A clarity.
Looking at the tombstones of people I know; They were my teachers, mine and my friends' grandparents, school mates that we davened for, and valued community members.
At the end of the day,
It struck me
There are a few poignant lines on each of their tombstones,
That encapsulated their lives.
Like maybe 3 or 4 lines.
To sum up their life achievements.
When exploring the lives of our Avos, Imahos, people of Tanach,
Their lives too, can be summarised
What were their challenges?
What were their achievements?
Contributions to the people living in their day and to the generations thereafter?
You may wish to take one person from the Torah, and record the answers to the above.
And now, let's see you for a moment.
You - living in your life.
You know; Your challenges uniquely arranged for you
And your life itself.
When the woman came to me, we looked at all of this,
Visualised a powerful goal for herself.
Not necessarily about her job - no - about her life
And that brings clarity
Removes the F.O.G. (Acting out of Fear. Obligation. Guilt)
And now she starts living consciously - in tune with what she wants and where she's at.
"I have been through many modalities" she talks at session 3 (or was it 4)
"And yet I have never experienced such a kind of transformation"
I listen.
The words are genuine, and also I've heard them before
I am humbled in my role
Guiding supporting encouraging her
As she moves forward towards where she truly wants to be.
So trash to goals with external results,
Please
It's not whole
There is much left to clarify
Think the few lines,
That you want be said about you
After 120
And now think
About today,
And how your current activities fit into that.
For as much as we refine
Our goal
Will we find inner peace
And calm and fulfilment
More and more moments, hours, of our day
Will be spent on living in our mission
I hope this makes sense
And if you have currently
A decision to make
You may want to use this thought,
To help you come to clarity
Want to talk?
I've opened some slots to hear where you're at - you can book a call here
I aim to give you some kind of blue print as to where your direction may be headed in order for you to reach what you want.
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