How to become more patient

Patience. Because you have goals. You are a woman who knows what she wants, honours what she wants and then there is life. And family. And real people. And glitches and hitches.

Personal question here; how does it look like on a day you were energised to move forward towards your goals and then something happened that prevented it?

How does your energy switch when that happens? For me, it's a daily challenge, I confide. It's brave work to honour what you want, altogether. That it should then be interrupted, makes my brain go all over the place, like "Maybe I shouldn't be doing this whole thing. Maybe I'm not good enough. It's just not happening."

It's just not happening. Well, here's the thing.

Our role is to own our wants, our deep dreams for ourselves and yes to do actions towards achieving it.

To stay patient becomes a lot more testing when you live with intention and an accurate plan.

Sometimes the interruptions challenge you to revisit those goals and that's great.

But my main point here is this;

The fact that your soul is inclined to this and you want it, tells me that this is a part of your mission here in this world.

When it's going to happen? In G-d's time, it will happen.

We can't push the time.

Interesting, the Torah writes in Koheles, "For everything there is a time and place. a time to weep and a time to laugh. A time to mourn and a time to rejoice"

Beautiful. Let's clarify the concept. For everything there is the right time and place. I originally thought this to mean that there is an appropriate time and place for everything. Eg we don't mourn on Shabbos.

But the commentaries on the page, don't put it this way. They explain that "For everything there is a time and place" means that it's all in G-d's time.

That's patience.

Knowing it will happen.

Taking actions towards our goals.

And when and how you end up actually living what you wanted, that's always in G-d's time and in a way that only He can create.

So no need to push it, my dear. The baby can cry and life can go on. Because it will happen.

I see this truth again and again in my own life and in that of the women I work with.

Personal example; I wanted to spread my local work to the wider world. I invested in a time-limited training that I threw myself into heart and soul. But that was exactly when my daughter got sick. And the training had to be put on hold. I crawled on when I could but there was no way I could achieve the promised result in the given time frame.

There was no choice but to go along with what was going on right in my home. It was too clear that business, for heaven's sake, was the very last thing on my priority list.

Long story short, my business moved on in exactly the way I wanted it to, but not at all in the way I planned.

Or take the example of a woman who has opened a coaching practice, spent a LOT of money advertising, serving clients but not seeing enough ROI (Return on Investment). She's pushing really, because her business is in the red, but hey, that's what she wants, ain't it?

True, girl, but if that's what you want, you can be confident it will come. And if it will come, you dont' need to go out of pocket for it to come. you can work within your resources of time and money.

Now that's G-dly and human at the same time.

G-dly, because you are not being passive; you see yourself blooming, believe in your divinity and your unique gifts which anchor you to serve in this way, and you are taking real steps towards actualising that.

Well done. Beautiful. Brave.

And. You are being human.

Yes. Because when you get really truthful about your time and money capacity, it's actually more limited than you'd like it to be.

As a woman you have a full life and you want to live it in the best way. So this coaching, how much time in the day would you ideally like to be spending on it?

You may be surprised at your answer.

Patience means staying true to the limitations you have and using that limited area in the most effective way you can.

It may take the form of one microscopic act per day. And spreading the word without spending a dime.

That's you pedalling across your bridge, in a non rushed, consistent way.

That's you being patience.

Yes, patience is humility - in the human limitations of money, time and any other resources.

Patience is at the same time, knowing. Knowing that what you want for so long already, will come.

All in G-d's time.

If you enjoyed this post, and have a story of your goals and patience, I would love to hear. Send me a comment or a like or connect with me at info@petalscoaching.com